In the clinical practice with couples, Family Mediation has its own function. In particular, this intervention can achieve its goals only under certain relational conditions. The present contribution focuses on such conditions through examining the following two variables: the power preconception towards the ties with the other and the different forms of divorce. The resulting consequence is that only a part of divorced couples can negotiate. Thus, emphasizing family mediation is sometime out of place.The value of a preliminary time, that is a time in which questions need to be arised, is pointed out for every intervention to the divorced family. Five fundamental questions in particular are considered: each of them deals with crucial matters connected to the relational and generational perspective. This is in order to make emerge partners’ power preconceptions about the relationship with oneself/with the other and the way partners manage/do not manage the pain related to the end of the bond with the other.