Appartenenza e separazione nelle terapie del lutto: da un tempo bloccato alla presenza di un’assenza - Rituals, of past century culture, allowed grieving to be socially expressed, thus facilitating its condivision and elaboration. Now day culture, in occidental urban context, often leaves in a private space, psychotherapy, the expression of it. The authors, from their personal experience of psychotherapists and teachers, individuate in block of time and in a blocking of grieving a possible source of psychopathology. Aim of this article is to offer a few points of reflection on the theme of grieving for a wider understanding and utilization of it. Then they suggest the concept of loyalty, resilience, together with the concept of pacing, to accept death and loss in an isomorphic possibility of individuation and personal resources utilization. The elaboration of grief can then evolve in a nurturing way. Case reports illustrate their experience on grief elaboration.
Keywords: Belonging, grief elaboration, individuation ,loyalty, resilience, time distortion.