This article, using the work of a sociologist, Bauman, and a psychoanalyst, Recalcati, aims to identify the characteristics of a particular problem presented by modern couples: the lack of desire. The liquidity of the current society has implications for interpersonal relationships and entails profound changes in intrapsychic life, with the emergence of a narcissistic ego-worship. Currently, many couples have a disease that is characterized by the attack on the bond. One can distinguish a first condition which corresponds to a freedom delusion, a second to a bond cementing. The replacement of the human experience of the absence with that of the emptiness, underlying the liquidity of the life, preludes the cancellation of the desire for the Other. It involves two bond pathologies, very different from what we used to know. The first are those couples who can not overcome the intimacy test, where the bond is experienced as a source of personal debasement and restraint. In the second couples, the bond has only formal value, becoming a distributor of rigid roles and identities. Finally, the article describes the features of narcissistic marriage and gives directions for the treatment of this relational problem.
Keywords: Lack of desire, liquid society, narcissism, modern couple, attack on the bond