The authors propose a methodology that follows the principles of family mediation, applied to conflicting separations and based on the systemic-relational model. In the "Laboratory of Conflicts" of ASL 3 (Genoa), the couples, caught up in what is called “the interminable conflict”, are invited to find a solution to the organizational management of family life, paying particular attention to the emotional needs of their children. After the initial sessions, which involve only parents, their children can be invited to participate, and, when necessary, other family members too. During the sessions, the emergence of a new reading of the facts is encouraged, more articulate and more characterized by circular causality and by a sense of reciprocity. This aspect aims to overcome the harsh and accusatory way of living and to present the facts responsible for the separation, in order to improve parents’ ability to decode the conflict by connecting it to the relations between family members and to the emotions that these relations generate. The aim of the clinical work carried out in the Laboratory is to reduce the negative effects of separation, preventing quantitative and qualitative impoverishment of the relationship of one or both parents with their children.
Keywords: Mediation, marital separation, conflict, parental functions, intergenerational ties, family system.