The paradoxes of love: dependence, autonomy and trust. Love, complex phenomenology for the thought that for the direct experience of life, raises questions which it is difficult to answer. The difficulty of the search for love does not mean that you think continually to love and love belongs to "all the good and the bad of our lives". Love has a fundamental enemy that is fusion, in other words, the complete dependence on the other, a connection that runs the risk of losing the autonomy and disappearing as a living being unique and distinct. The love lives constantly in a precarious balance between autonomy and independence and the difficult balance between independence and desire, between autonomy and neglect, does not erase the fact that it is only love that will allow all "ego" to awaken even within the permanent and insurmountable deficiencies of the human beings.
Keywords: Love, autonomy, desire, trust, merger, imperfection of humanity, independence, revitalization of the ego.