In this article, the author will explore the painful embodied couple processes that are ex-pressed through specifically sexual problems. These problems will be viewed as co-created by the couple. The loss of bodily spontaneity results in the fragility of intimate contact, taking the form of a specific sexual dysfunction. According to the Gestalt perspective, suffering belongs to the relationship, not to only one partner: the couple is the main character of these problems. For each of these experiences clinical examples will be given. The author proposes a therapeutic support that can be used to restore spontaneity and full-ness in the embodied experience of the couple. For this purpose, the concept of Aesthetic Re-lational Knowledge of the therapist will be introduced (Spagnuolo Lobb, 2017a). This thera-peutic skill can be viewed also in terms of a resonance of the therapist as a sexual person and is a precious tool in working with embodied processes of the couples in a way that supports the sensitivity of the therapist and at the same time is respectful of the patients’ intimate experi-ence. In addition, the article will introduce specific steps, developed by Spagnuolo Lobb (2011), that guide the work with couples, showing how they can be used by the therapist to support the co-construction of an embodied spontaneity in the here and now of the couple. The final part of the article describes the basic competences implied in the co-construction of the contact that are activated and supported in the therapeutic meeting, in terms of "dance steps", as theorized by Spagnuolo Lobb (2017b), to underline the co-construction of the inter-action. In describing those competences, implied in the process of "dancing" together at the con-tact boundary, the author will focus on how the therapist can promote their development and their growth within the embodied processes of the couple. Thus, the therapeutic setting be-comes a place where one can expand the ground and have new embodied experiences during the therapeutic encounter.
Keywords: Couple, body process, loss of spontaneity, sexuality, love gestures, Aesthetic Rela-tional Knowledge, Dance Steps.