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I belong to no one
Author/s: Maria Laura Vittori 
Year:  2020 Issue: Language: Italian 
Pages:  10 Pg. 121-130 FullText PDF:  117 KB
DOI:  10.3280/PSOB2020-001007
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Narcissistic people don’t enter therapists’ rooms to face their losses, unless they are suffering from a depressive disorder. The narcissistic shell, which protects the frail Self, tends to crack during the middle age, when, as Dante said, one could find oneself "in a dark wood, where the direct way was lost". Nicola, aged 47, was suffering from a depression with psychotic features. Being worried about his sense of helplessness we decided to listen to him, without exploring sore spots. Suddenly he revealed his tendency to pick what he needed from others, who were seen in a partial, unrealistic way. He recovered from his depression, retrieving his narcissistic attitude, which keeps him alive, at the cost of draining him out.
Keywords: Narcissism; depression; middle aged; functioning; therapeutic listening.

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Maria Laura Vittori, I belong to no one in "PSICOBIETTIVO" 1/2020, pp. 121-130, DOI:10.3280/PSOB2020-001007


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