Starting from clinical experiences with foreign children who have been adopted in our country, psychic implications are here discussed in relationship to the children’s relinquishment of their original native languages. This renunciation, in many cases, takes place with surprising immediateness and seems to offer an element of reassurance to the adoptive parents, struggling with the ghost of estrangement. If, on the one hand, such an immediate relinquishment of the native language implies a defensive element linked to the children’s distancing from past painful experiences, on the other it also leads to a laceration of the earliest relational bonds underlying the establishment of verbal language. The weaving of this sound pattern starts in pre-natal life by means of relational elements within a maternal presence that serves as a sound horizon. Maternal musicality, which is at the basis of future language, can be considered as the activator of a rhythmic impulse to live, move and communicate with a person other than oneself.
Keywords: International adoptions, mother language, estrangement, nostalgia.