I belong to no one

Author/s Maria Laura Vittori
Publishing Year 2020 Issue 2020/1 Language Italian
Pages 10 P. 121-130 File size 117 KB
DOI 10.3280/PSOB2020-001007
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Narcissistic people don’t enter therapists’ rooms to face their losses, unless they are suffering from a depressive disorder. The narcissistic shell, which protects the frail Self, tends to crack during the middle age, when, as Dante said, one could find oneself "in a dark wood, where the direct way was lost". Nicola, aged 47, was suffering from a depression with psychotic features. Being worried about his sense of helplessness we decided to listen to him, without exploring sore spots. Suddenly he revealed his tendency to pick what he needed from others, who were seen in a partial, unrealistic way. He recovered from his depression, retrieving his narcissistic attitude, which keeps him alive, at the cost of draining him out.

Keywords: Narcissism; depression; middle aged; functioning; therapeutic listening.

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Maria Laura Vittori, A nessuno appartengo in "PSICOBIETTIVO" 1/2020, pp 121-130, DOI: 10.3280/PSOB2020-001007