Me, you and our children. A look at homoparental families

Author/s Ludovica Pagano
Publishing Year 2021 Issue 2021/53 Language Italian
Pages 21 P. 75-95 File size 233 KB
DOI 10.3280/PR2021-053005
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In this article, the author discusses about homoparental families and the aim is to provide useful guidelines for professionals who want to work with them. Recent studies have proven there is no correlation between the par-ents’ sexual orientation and the emotional, behavioural and psychoso-cial development in children. Nonetheless, homoparental families are characterized by distinctive features which any psychotherapist should know. Moreover, the psychotherapist should be aware of his/her own emotional resounances and limits with respect to the subject in order to prevent uneffective or dangerous treatment for the patient.

Keywords: homoparental family, parents, family, sexual orientation, child development

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Ludovica Pagano, IO, TU e i NOSTRI figli: uno sguardo alla famiglia omogenitoriale in "RIVISTA DI PSICOTERAPIA RELAZIONALE " 53/2021, pp 75-95, DOI: 10.3280/PR2021-053005